(Sermon notes taken by: Minister Evelyn Diane Thomas  Notes are Verbatim, uncut and unedited….) 

Sermon Title: “Kick your kids to the curb”

• • The men are singing from their hearts… “How great is our God!!!!!” Name of above all names.. Let me hear you say GREAT!!!
  •  Scripture reading: Luke 2:41-51 King James Version (KJV)41 Now his parents went to Jerusalem every year at the feast of the passover.42 And when he was twelve years old, they went up to Jerusalem after the custom of the feast.43 And when they had fulfilled the days, as they returned, the child Jesus tarried behind in Jerusalem; and Joseph and his mother knew not of it.

    44 But they, supposing him to have been in the company, went a day’s journey; and they sought him among their kinsfolk and acquaintance.

    45 And when they found him not, they turned back again to Jerusalem, seeking him.

    46 And it came to pass, that after three days they found him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the doctors, both hearing them, and asking them questions.

    47 And all that heard him were astonished at his understanding and answers.

    48 And when they saw him, they were amazed: and his mother said unto him, Son, why hast thou thus dealt with us? behold, thy father and I have sought thee sorrowing.

    49 And he said unto them, How is it that ye sought me? wist ye not that I must be about my Father’s business?

    50 And they understood not the saying which he spake unto them.

    51 And he went down with them, and came to Nazareth, and was subject unto them: but his mother kept all these sayings in her heart.

•  Sermon Title: “Kick your kids to the curb”

– For some of yawl, Madelyn Devin has wrote in her book how disconnection is making unhappy children.. This new group of adverse children and they are not from broken homes and have access to more than any other generation has the highest rate of substance abuse, bulimia, etc. than most children in the history. This sector of children come from a fluent home… Wealth does not translate to emotional health.. African america communities have less, but are raising more stable children… There was a girl that had deep seated anger, and she en-scrolled on her forearm “EMPTY” some parents cannot decipher or detect that their children have a problem.. They are engaged and polite and go to church.. In one area of their life that they are grounded, they are still children and don’t’ know themselves well.. They can become _____ and forget their sense of.. They become overly dependent on what they think to be beautiful.. At 10 years old, girls think that they are overweight… It’s not because a lack of activity because they are boring themselves… We have low home ability and high expectations in education… They can do school work but they cannot cook or make a military bed.. Don’t even know the 23rd psalms or the apostle creed.. You have pushed what you perceive as a priority and everything else becomes an accessory to crime… If you stress money, money will be their only goal… You will tell them to get a job but not tell them what will make an impact.. They don’t know who they are and where they are going… Sometimes you have to force your children to sit with their seniors… They will think they dropped out of know where and think they don’t have to persevere… I know my family tree, and I know my seniors.. We have more blacks in senior care in our history because we have disposed of the people in our history… We have mamma, big mamma and them that have paved the way for us… Then they have the nerve to have an attitude with you because you won’t buy them what they want… The girl that scribed “empty” on her arm have been micro managed and deprived the opportunity to find their sense of self… You have to understand your self worth an identity.. Our children don’t’ have it because we are expecting everything for them and not expecting anything from them… You need _________________________… You have to be satisfied in your own company.. .Have your child to sit down and read book and stretch their mind… Much is given, much is required… You do not grow until you have spent some time to yourself.. It’s not until you have some time out time when you can realize what is for me… In this season, I’m glad I did not have a whole lot of voices so I could see.. Anyone that have failed know what is like succeed… In failure, I have learned to do something better… Stop being their super woman.. Sometimes, you have to take your hands off of them… When your kids mess up, I dare you to go up to the school and get mad when you did not do your job at home.. Let him learn.. At a certain age you learn how to tie your shoe.. You tell everyone that you knew how to tie your shoe so they could stand for themselves… There are some things they need to do on their own.. If they keep living they will make some bad decisions, and date some bad people… It won’t kill them because it did not kill you… Your experience will help you.. As beautiful as they are, they will mess up!!!!! I want to say to you that you have not heard in the your entire parenting season.. You need to kick them to the curb… Drop them off in the rough, and cut them off… Here is the bad new… As children of God, sometimes cut us off because we have to figure out our own mess… If it had not been for the Lord on our side, where would I be… God has the power to rescue us.. Every now and then he has to allow us to seep in our own mess… Some of us have not got the message yet until we make better decisions and choose our circles wisely… When we get to Luke Chapter 2:41 – And the parents always went to worship…. They did not let their kids stay at home.. He said he is at the back door asking where is Lil ______…. Don’t give your kids the option not to worship God and go to games, etc… Worship is not negotiable.. Worship is not an option.. .If you are going to live in my house, no drug, no babies… As for me and my house, we gone serve the Lord.. .They went to church, and a lot like our present day parents, they got pre-occupied and lost their child at church.. They were so busy being deep and spiritual and forgot to have a conversation with their child.. If you are living like a demon Monday through Friday, and there is no consistency.. That is a problem.. You have to talk to your child and figure out who their friends are.. There are no secrets if I am paying the bills.. You have to go back to some traditional values.. As long as I am in the house, there are no doors shut where I pay the bills.. You better take off them locks off of your kids door.. You are going to sit in the living with your company and I”m gone sit with you… They lost their child while going to church.. A day passed and they did not know where he was.. The good thing is you are never lost in God.. Aren’t’ you glad you don’t have to put on a disguise when you come to God’s house… You can be angry and upset and come before God because he knows exactly where you are…

The child was missing and they did not even notice… How long can you go and realize that God is not in your company…. Sampson realized that the oil ws not even on him…. The bible and bracelet that says: What would Jesus do… .How long has it been since God has been in your company… How long can you go without God in your company? Here is the crazy thing.. They went to go find Jesus that they thought was amongst their family.. There are some family members you cannot leave your children with.. We have some crazy pedophiles in this world and you better be careful who you leave your children with… Ladies and gentleman, your children are not missing and you don’t have to sound an amber alert or put them on a milk carton, they are still there.. If you left them, they are still right there wearing a sign saying “Will you please parent me?” Train up a child in the way they should go, and when they get old, they will not depart.. Your job is not to be your kids friend… Some of yawl need to check your children.. A lot of them need to be grabbed in the collar.. The reverse psychology of a manipulative mother.. She left him and now projecting.. I am releasing you from family that have tried to make you feel like it was your fault.. Do not carry the banner for people that wont’ carry their own weight..

At 12, this was Jesus’s rights of surpass-age… This is where he finds his inner voice.. He asks the question, why are you looking for me? It was in that I was trying to find myself… Some family member did you a favor leaving you, they did you a favor… You found your call… Over overwhelming neglect, you found your call…. Due to neglect you found yourself… Let me take the weight off of some parents because you did too much… I know the plans for them… I knew the plan because I knew the plan for their life… If you be faithful over a few things, he will make you ruler over many…. Take your hands off of them because they don’t’ belong to you anyways, they belong to God!!!!

Dr. Jamal tells the story about him getting in trouble… He said his mother said to God, I’m giving him back to you God… He had to realize that the call was on his life… If you kick them to the curb, I will pull them up and pick them up…. After he left the temple, is when Jesus matured and began his ministry.. Your child will never develop if you try to live your dreams through them… Not my will, but thine will be done.. Lord I’ve done all I can do, and Lord you take it over from there… Nobody told me that the road would be easy, but I don’t believe that he brought me this far to leave me.. Give God permission to take over your children lives… If you praise me, the weight and responsibility it coming off of you….

Extend your hand to the closest child, Lord in the name of Jesus I pray for every child, teenager and adolescent.. I pray that you will bless their mistakes.. God don’t let it kill them but let it develop them.. I pray they don’t’ have to learn the lessons I had to go through.. I pray they have more success and become better than me… I pray that God covers my children and my grandchildren… .If there is a parent in the room that needed to hear that today… God, I’m giving them back to you.. I don’t care how old a child get, you still see them as your baby… God has given you supernatural ways….

I want to pray for parents that are frustrated and the children are driving you nuts… Frustrated parents, I want you to meet me at the alter…. “FRUSTRATED” I don’t know if you are frustrated about lack of choices, friends.. God is saying take your hands off of the situation.. Lord we are giving our children back to you… Scream their name!!! Lord I need you to bless that child… Lord I don’t need you to kill them but get their undivided attention…. Lord I need you handle it in Jesus name…

I have one more group.. I want to pray for and talk to children that are angry and don’t’ feel right.. Children that just can’t get a break and feel like they are being nagged… It’s not that you don’t have stuff.. Parents do not push your child, let them come on their own… I need you guys to celebrate… I don’t want us in this setting to trivialize children’s pain… This is not the reflection of a child that is spoiled.. It’s the refection of a child’s ___ or your parenting but a lack of esteem… I pray even while I am speaking that God add a sign and you feel the presence of God with you.. I pray that you will not break and God will help you.. Over 270 children have been tested positive for STD’s… Ask by the clinician what happen.. The answer.. Everybody is doing it… They felt wrong if they were not doing what everybody else was doing.. I pray that our children do not be confused by their sexual identity… We believe by faith that great things are gong to happen to you… Give your Kids to God, not throw them into the world. #Amen ~ Pastor Jamal Bryant –

(***Sermon notes taken by: Minister Evelyn Diane Thomas – Verbatim, Uncut, Unedited.. For study purposes and your enlightenment on what thus says the Lord….

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