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Intervention (Resolve family, financial, and personal issues)

God’s Intervention: Genesis 1:4-5 (KJV) 4And God saw the light, that it was good: and God divided the light from the darkness. 5And God called the light Day, and the darkness he called Night. And the evening and the morning were the first day.

1 Timothy 5:8 (ESV) But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

James 5:16 (ESV) Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

Hebrews 10:30 (ESV) For we know him who said, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.” And again, “The Lord will judge his people.”

2 Corinthians 6:14 (ESV)Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

April 3, 2012 – is day number 42 on our 40 Days  of Lenten season… I know you might say, but it says 40 days…. Yes it it, but we are going to stretch it  out all the way until Easter Sunday, April 8, 2012… It’s been a bitter sweet journey, but we are almost there..  I had more sweet days and than bitter one’s during the Lenten season…If I had my way, I would have love to encounter the whole 40 days alone with just me and God..  Let’s face reality, everyday it’s just God, myself and the kid….  It’s sometimes we allow man and their problems to creep into the room making you feel like you’ve disappointed God once more…  Nevertheless, I don’t dwell on disappointed, but dwell on how many times I pleased God by doing or saying the right thing… I know everyday is not going to be roses, but I make it my business to make lemonade at the end of the day when I’m handed such a sour card… I try to find solutions on how I could have handled that situation better…  Life is a process, and I feel like we are all still learning how to deal with issues as they come.. I found, if you stay in the word of the Lord, and develop a real relationship with God… No matter what comes your way, you are still able to stand because you know who’s you are and when you know who’s you are you don’t have a problem following after him.

With all that said, I’m going to take the next few paragraphs to elaborate on the topic of discussion for today which is Intervention (Resolve family, financial, and personal issues).

For a lot of us, this issue right here is bigger than life itself…  Intervention… What is intervention?  I’m glad you asked…. As cited at www.dictionary.com – Intervention:  1. The act or fact of intervening or 2. Interposition or interference of one state in the affairs of another.

Intervention is always a great word to know. –
1. The act of intervening.
2. any interference in the affairs of others, esp by one state in the affairs of another.
3. economics  the action of a central bank insupporting the international value of acurrency by buying large quantities of the
currency to keep the price up.
4. commerce  the action of the EU in buying upsurplus produce when the market price dropsto a certain value.

“Let’s do our best on this holy week to (Resolve family, financial, and personal issues)” 

I have enclosed some some wonderful research information I found from Intervention services which provides a large range of intervention treatment for families.. Some families are plagued by drugs, alcohol, sexual addictions… This information will help us with the help and prayers from God to resolve these different family issue…

Some families face financial and personal issues… Nevertheless, one problem can be greater than others, but they all can be resolved with a little knowledge and wisdom and no leaning to our own understanding…  Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) 5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart  and lean not on your own understanding; 6in all your ways submit to him,  and he will make your paths straight.

Christian Intervention

A Christian Intervention can bring them back to Christ

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What is it that we do when our loved one has lost their way and their faith due to drugs and alcohol?  Oftentimes, a family whose life is centered in Christ feels more comfortable having a Christian Interventionist to help their loved one find their way. A Christian Intervention is performed with a foundation in faith and guided by an Interventionist who found his own personal recovery through accepting Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior.

Christian Intervention is ideal for someone who has sought faith or was raised in a Christian upbringing and found a faith that, at one time was working for them. However, using drugs or alcohol has separated them from feeling the presence of God in their life. Instead of connection, there is a feeling of disconnection. It is not God who has disconnected, but a thousand unhandled situations that create guilt, shame and remorse that are blocking the Christian from the sunlight of the Spirit. Alcohol and drugs replace that feeling of disconnection with an artificial sense of connection with other people and the world around. But these artificial feelings are a trap and are always temporary. The alcohol and drug based connections fade away over time and the substance abuser is left feeling even more empty. The world is now empty for them. Even sitting amongst their own loving family can sometimes be an uncomfortable reminder of what once was…when they were happy. He seeks oblivion to make the uncomfortable feelings go away.

But even under these conditions, God is working in their life..

The universe is slowly being rearranged, the temporal distractions that are blocking him are being removed. Perhaps they lose their job, perhaps the money is gone. He is reaching his bottom. And then family discovers that maybe there is a chance to bring them back. Speaking with a Christian Intervention provider, the plans are made.

A Christian Intervention can bring the family back together

Arriving at the family home, the Christian Interventionist gives his testimony and the family begins to feel the stirrings of hope. The following day the substance abuser sits in the living room surrounded by his loving family…but he doesn’t feel that way, he feels alone. Initially defensive, he believes his problems are external. The letters are slowly read and the presence of the Holy Spirit begins to fill the room. After minutes or hours the substance abuser’s objections are handled by the Christian Interventionist one by one. And then there is a long pause. A sense of relief passes over the substance abuser as he looks at his family. “Ok, I will go.”

After a period of shocked silence, the family isn’t sure if what they heard was true. Usually they ask “Did you just say you are going?” to be sure. And then the one who was the loneliest person in the room is surrounded in hugs, laughter and tears.

And for a moment we see a glimpse of the work of God.

If you have any questions about a Christian Intervention, you may contact us at any time.

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Christian Intervention

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The Family Intervention

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Family Intervention – Because it isthe family that suffers most.

Why is it that we are coming together and having a family intervention?  Is it for our loved one, the addict?  Or is it really for us?  After a hundred drunken episodes, lost jobs or failed marriages, the addict or alcoholic usually seems to remain relatively oblivious to the misery that he or she is causing their loved ones. Aside from the occasional mumbled apology, or the brief moments of self-pity, it appears that he or she takes very little accountability or responsibility for his or her own actions.

It is the family that always suffers most…not the addict. If an addict becomes too uncomfortable, they can always just ingest another pill, take another drink, or smoke another joint to “make it all go away” leaving you to feel the consequences. It is you, the family member, who stays up all night when he’s “out with the boys” again. You are the one who feels unwanted when your husband is passed out on the couch. You are the one who feels the pain of another lost job or failure. The family members are the ones that suffer the most, and the family has been harmed as a result. So it is with you that we must begin our focus. Our family intervention process is broken up into two days, respectively called the “Family Consultation Day” and the “Family Intervention Day”. It is on “Family Consultation Day”, which lasts approximately 6-8 hours, where we can help to begin the healing of the family itself.

A Family Intervention can begin the healing in your family

Intervention Services was started by two brothers, both seriously affected by addiction. One, a drug addict who was slowly killing himself; the other trying desperately to save his brother. We have been in your shoes…and we understand in a way that perhaps few do.

Statistically most drug addicts or alcoholics do not get sober. The idea that one day most alcoholics or addicts wake up and eventually “figure it out” is a fallacy.The alcoholic or addict is usually the least qualified to know how much trouble they are in. Some end up in jail, some overdose or die in automobile accidents, some commit suicide. Some just continue on and on, slowly fading away…the long goodbye. Most never find sobriety and the suffering family waits for a miracle..

Sobriety almost always begins when an outside event occurs that causes an alcoholic or addict to look differently at their life. Sometimes it is after the loss of a job, or a divorce, or when they lose custody of their children. Sometimes it is after they lose everything and end up on the streets. But sobriety doesn’t have to begin that way. The addict doesn’t have to take it all the way to the bottom, for sometimes the bottom is irreversible. Recovery can begin with you…the one who loves them. This is what a family intervention is about.

The S.M.A.R.T. Model of Family Interventions

The substance abusers are different, the families are different, and the solutions are different.  Therefore it is important to understand that the intervention goals themselves need to be different depending on the family and the substance abuser.  Intervention Services uses the S.M.A.R.T. Model of Family Interventions, which allows room to choose the options that best serve your family and understands that there are at least 3 types of family interventions:

1) Recovery Intervention: This type of family intervention has, as it’s end goal, active and usually life-time participation in recovery.  Although most commonly using traditional approaches such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, a recovery intervention may also include Christian or faith-based alternatives such as Celebrate Recovery or other support groups.  A Recovery Intervention may include many aspects of our continuum of care, including inpatient treatment followed by sober living residency for up to 6 months, followed by active participation is support group meetings, outpatient, etc.  The goal of a Recovery Intervention is complete lifestyle change and dedication to recovery.

2) Crisis Intervention: A Crisis Intervention only seeks to handle the immediate unhealthy behaviors of a loved one.  When a child is only experimenting in drugs, binge drinking, or maybe only showing a few signs of abuse, it can sometimes be counter-productive to have one family member dedicated towards pushing a teenager into a lifetime commitment to participation in recovery meetings, and the rest of the family thinking that this is only an unhealthy phase that must be addressed.  Intervention Services uses a Systemic form of family interventions, which means that we have to work collectively as a family unit.  To disintegrate the family and work against each other is one of the worst things that can occur with any intervention

3) Closure Intervention: A Closure Intervention allows a family to feel that they have done everything possible before moving on to a different stage in their life.  Sometimes family members call us and they are rather blunt. “This intervention isn’t about Jim…it is about us.”  Occasionally there are issues of child custody, years of alcohol and drug abuse, feelings of apathy, major illness surrounding a loved one who has “given up”, or just the understanding that the substance abuser has a short time left and we all need to know that we tried. Closure interventions are a way for a family (or family member) to become “unstuck”.  Historically very powerful experiences for all involved, it is an honor for Intervention Services to help guide a family that needs an Intervention of Closure.

In essence, it is important to have an intervention service provider that is willing and able to tailor the intervention towards your needs and expected outcomes.  Although we, at Intervention Services, are considered an authority on family interventions, that doesn’t mean we must be inflexible.  Allow us to guide you through making a choice that has the ideal solutions for your loved ones.

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Why Families Wait

It is common knowledge within the intervention field that over 90% of clients who are intervened on end up agreeing to enter treatment. However, less than 5% of family members who reach out an inquire about an intervention, actually end up having an intervention done on their loved one. Which means that it is easier to convince an unwilling addict or alcoholic to enter treatment then it is to convince a family to let us do it.

The question is why?

“Why Families Wait?” is a presentation delivered by our Founder, David Lee, at the Mt. Vernon, Iowa Town Hall to family members, educators, and law enforcement to help understand the complex dynamics involved when connected to a substance abuser.

More Intervention Videos

Video Response Series

If you are in need of a detailed answer to a question you may have in regards to your loved one, you may write/email us a question about your family situation and we may provide a video response for you.  All video responses, although publicly made, have been altered to adhere to the utmost in confidentiality and respect of the delicacy of your situation.

Understanding Enabling is to help families to understand Enabling in a different way then they have had it explained before.  A part of our Intervention Video Response Series, which answers questions emailed in from families in need of help, this has become one of our most popular.-
reaching the bottom Why Families Wait Reaching the Bottom

Reaching the Bottom is another in our Intervention Video Responses Series.  Does your loved one need to reach their bottom in order to change?  It is important for families to collectively understand that waiting for this mysterious event, this “bottom” that they have often been mistakenly informed of…often results in disastrous consequences.

More Intervention and Educational Presentations:

In addition to “Why Families Wait”, the following presentations are examples of the many public service presentations that we provide for schools, educators, treatment providers, churches, and social services.  If you are in need of a workshop or presentation, please contact us for scheduling.

kevin lee intervention presentation Why Families WaitOur Helping was Hurting

Our Helping was Hurting is a presentation delivered by co-founder Kevin Lee.  An honest portrayal of a family struggling to help an addict to achieve sobriety, Kevin speaks from a personal perspective as a family member who knows what it is like to have a family stumble through all the “right actions” which only left them more frustrated in the end.

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Our Helping was Hurting

How much can you give to save your loved one’s life?  Will you give your money, your time, your prayers?  Will you even give yourself until there is nothing left of you?  Every family enables in some way.  Kevin Lee, co-founder of Intervention Services speaks frankly on how his family continued to sacrifice everything, all in the name of love. And how it wasn’t until they learned how their helping had been hurting that the situation began to truly change.

Kevin Lee, co-founder of Intervention Services delivering a presentation on “Our Helping was Hurting” to a group a family members.

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This company called: Creative resolution family-therapy – They take the Trauma out of Drama – check them out: http://www.creativeresolution.net/fort-lauderdale-i-family-therapy.html

 
Creative Resolution Group was created to provide therapy for personal growth and confidence in a comfortable, supportive atmosphere. Therapy motivates you to reach your highest potential and improves the quality of your life. Treatment is individualized, goals are mutually established, and feedback is given frequently. The supportive, engaging style of therapy encourages self-worth, achievement, relaxation, and better ability to cope with challenge. Appointments are conveniently scheduled to avoid waiting rooms and wasted time.Yvonne and Deborah of Creative Resolution Group  practice Psycho Therapy in a warm, supportive atmosphere. This proven approach develops coping strategies to achieve your personal goals, build self-confidence and assertiveness, strengthen interpersonal relationships, improve mood, and achieve balance in the events of living. Goals are clearly established, and progress is frequently reviewed. Therapy is always private and confidential.

At Creative Resolution Group we appreciate the value individual counseling provides but also recognize the on-going benefits of specialty groups.  Our groups are designed to provide information and focus on solutions to improve your life in specific areas.  Please contact us if you are interested in participating in one of our specialty groups.

Therapeutic strategies include psycho-educational presentations and group discussions.  Individuals and families learn healthy models of interaction and self-care while working towards resolution of past issues and identifying effective paths for creating more fulfilling lives.

Therapy is available for the following:

Bullet Anxiety, Panic Disorder, Phobias, Agoraphobia
Bullet Stress and Related Consequences
Bullet Depression and Low Self-Esteem
Bullet Trauma Resolution
Bullet Assertiveness and Communication Skills
Bullet Personal Growth and Improvement
Bullet Loss and Grief
Bullet Step-Families and Single Parenting
Bullet Relationship Difficulties and Intimacy
Bullet Behavior Management and Parenting Skills
Bullet Habit Control (Smoking, etc.)

 Creative resolution family-therapy – They take the Trauma out of Drama – check them out: http://www.creativeresolution.net/fort-lauderdale-i-family-therapy.html

Posted by:  Minister Evelyn Diane Thomas

Cited that Reference Material for Christian Intervention came from: http://www.interventionservicesinc.com/intervention-101/type-of-interventions/christian-intervention/  Family Intervention: http://www.interventionservicesinc.com/intervention-101/the-family-intervention/ – why families wait?  http://www.interventionservicesinc.com/intervention-101/the-family-intervention/
Our helping was hurting :  http://www.interventionservicesinc.com/resources/intervention-videos/our-helping-was-hurting/
Dictionary.com – http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/Intervention?fromAsk=true&o=100074
Cited: Reference material  from: Creative resolution family-therapy – They take the Trauma out of Drama – check them out: http://www.creativeresolution.net/fort-lauderdale-i-family-therapy.html